ag563,
You are going to enjoy the commander you bought. I have the full size, commander and light weight commander which is my EDC. There is a weight difference between the commander and the LW but it still makes a good every day/self defense weapon.
My trigger is a bit gritty on the commander however I have not done a trigger job on it yet. I haven't even put 500 rounds through it but after 1K rounds, I will have a trigger job done on it. Recoil on the commander is less than the LW but it is still a good shooter and I have no regrets. I use my LW as my EDC and shoot about 150 rounds through it every Sunday. The other thing I change is I always use Pachmyr grips as I have long fingers and it does soak up some of the recoil. A little tougher to do double taps so I always practice doing that. I think you are going to enjoy it. Good luck!
Tommy